Many people crave agreement. They go where the crowd goes, do what the crowd does. They try to fit in. This can be a benefit in your life or work against you.
If you have to work as a team to accomplish some goal where many benefit, you need agreement and harmony to get the job done. In this case it and work in your favor.
On the other hand if you crave agreement from people who are causing harm to themselves and others, breaking the law, etc., then you could find yourself going along with this crowd. This can really backfire in your life.
So, how do you judge when it is wise to go along with the agreed-upon way of acting or not?
It is really simple. Just look at each situation and decide if it benefits survival or not. That is not just your survival but that of your family, your group at work, the society, etc. and simply decide whether it is really pro-survival or not. If not, don’t do it.
If you find that even though you know what the group is doing is not best for your survival yet you still can’t just walk away and find something better to do, then it is time to reevaluate your connections. You could write down the names of the people you know and look at each and decide if their influence helps or hinders your survival.
Then, start spending time with the people who help, bring you up, believe in you and your abilities, and don’t hang out with those who do otherwise.
This is a very important step after doing any detox program. Reconnecting with those who agree you should be doing drugs instead of the people who are validating you for helping yourself and improving yourself, can make your life challenging and set you up to fail.
Now is your chance to rise above any craving for agreement and continue to improve your life.
With a bit of success in life and conscious practice of this simple principle, those who would harm you, will find you impossible to knock down.
